By Sally Lanham

Fall brings a bit of nip in the air, kids in school, leaves abandoning their secure homes, and thoughts of upcoming holidays.  Often I find people begin the dissolution process during this time.  They are getting away from the summer bustle and begin to focus on their family situations, and decide to make a change.

Most find a dissolution is never an easy decision but it is one that is seen as necessary. 

If children are involved, the issues keep on "falling" from the sky.   The earlier the parties begin to think about these things, the better.

Some areas of concern are:

Who goes with the children the first day of school?
Who attends the Parent's Night?
How are we going to do Trick or Treat? 
Who decides about soccer or cross-country?
Who is going to do Thanksgiving and is it the day or the weekend?
Who has the job of telling Grandmas we don't get to spend over on Christmas Eve like we have for the past 13 years?
Who will go to Whistler for Winter Break and use the timeshare?
Who will take the kids on the Disney Cruise previously planned?
Who will……………????

One way to help is use some scheduling software that all the kids can use. 
www.ourfamilywizard.com/index.cfm  has helped many of my clients.

In an ideal world, both parents would be able to agree on how to handle each situation, or even better, to be able to attend together.  Until that time the issues seem to keep "falling" through the first couple of years while they all adjust to a Parenting Plan.

Sally Lanham is a Family Law attorney.  She works with people in all aspects of their relationships with other family members.   She helps people with adoptions, pre and postnuptial agreements.  She also handles divorces, paternity suits and other related matters.