Family Law Homework 

by Sally A. Lanham

In the old days, I was a teacher in a town with the population of 84.  I was the English Department and librarian.  There were 24 high school students and I can share that reading a play like Macbeth can be a challenge.  "Ms. Lanham, I have to kill myself in the next scene." 

My teaching habits have merged with the work I do as a lawyer.  I give all new clients homework.  They are told to go forth and gather information and contacts.  I tell them to do some thinking and most of all some reading.

There is the general understanding in the family bar that this is a rough time for the entire family.  I suggest that people read several books.

Mom's House, Dad's House: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
by Isolina Ricci  

It helps people come up with ideas on how not to be a visiting parent.  It also helps parents realize that some time in a good situation is better than they realize.  Divorce is painful but not always long term.

The good divorce: Keeping your family together when your marriage comes apart
by Constance R Ahrons

This book helps people get over their anger and come up with a new way to relate to each other.  My sister, a child psychiatrist, has told me that no parents should be allowed to see their children until they have read this book.  I find that even when years have passed since a divorce those still in conflict can find some good pointers. 

The last book is my personal favorite. 

Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands on, practical guide to coping with custody issues that arise with an uncooperative ex-spouse.
by Julie A. Ross, Judy Corcoran

 
I often suggest that clients go to Amazon.com and order a set for themselves and for the other party.  (The above titles are linked to where you can find them on the Amazon.com Web site.)

I figure any time I can do something to help people cope, I have done something that will make everyone's job easier.